My very young cousin who is only 22 this year. Her frens were calling me 'Biao Jie' which somehow seems to make me feel even older!!
Her friend, Walter looking good in bright pink!
Walter and my cousin. They are 10 yrs difference in age!!
I tried to self take but apparently wasnt a very flattering photo.
My friends whom I was with at Ice Cold Beer joined me at ButterFac cos they heard so much abt the place but not been there yet.Though it wasnt exactly a 'out to party' night cos we din had alot of drinks n only went for awhile plus I was driving but I had fun.
And today, I went over to Prof Lau's place for dinner cos he msn me when I was in Milan that he and his wife miss me as they've not seen me quite awhile. So, I suggested we go for dinner instead of partying as I really appreciate lunch, dinner, chill outs, coffee more than a nite of partying.
Its only thru such time tat u really get to talk to each other n listen to each other's views and get to know inner depth abt each other, thus, building up the relationship. In short, a quality time spent rather than jus intoxicating yourself waking up to a bad hangover the next day.
To start off the dinner, Chris came to pick me as he stay near my area and while we were reaching Prof Lau's place, there were 2 cars racing on the opposite road. As soon as we pass by the second car, we heard a loud bang. I turned my head and saw the car hit right into the centre divider n rebounded back and spinning. There were sparks of fire on the centre divider as well.
If we were just tat 1-2 seconds late, the car would have hit us as well!
It left me in a state of shock for a moment. Somehow, life really seems to be so unexpected n fragile which leads me to wana apprecite and love the people around me more.
And during the dinner, the old couple invited another 2 of their friends along, both ladies so together with their son, we chatted about all issues in life. Men, women, relationship, etc.
The highlight of the conversation somehow got heated up as all of us advised their son to have a hair cut n change his image but he refused.
He has a very goody school boy look, wears spectacles. The very typical good boy aka nerd look whereas his parents are very hip n happening. Like his mum which is my friend, changes her hairstyle every other mth and seems to have an infinite no. of funky glasses.
He was very persistent on his way of thinking which all of us advised him tat his way of thinking is not going to allow him to survive in the current superficial working society. Everyone is looking at ur image of what u wear and how u wear.
But, he finds tat if he is to accomodate n give in, he will not be himself and tat loses the point.
I tried to share with him that the globe is always turning and the world is changing. We should be open to new concepts, suggestions and opinions. We cant be looking and thinking the same way as we are 5, 10 yrs ago.
Right now in this reality world, everyone looks at your presentation. What we wear, our haircut, the bag we carry, etc is our packaging and people judge us from this packaging.
Its jus like how a men will look at the good looks of a woman first before deciding to get to know her better and of cos, vice versa.
Thus, it is important that we dress well and look good.
But, he strongly beg to differ and thinks that as long as he combs his hair neat, wears a shirt n pants for interview, he will get the job cos he believes on his capability and believes that his future employers should be thinking the same way as him n judge him on his capabilty, study background etc and not jus by his appearance.
And he commented like how it is rude to wear jeans to a wedding dinner while I told him tat if a guy wears a pair of nice cut jeans with a t-shirt and a jacket with nice leather shoes, he is definitely fit to be seated in the wedding dinner and its not a sign of not showing respect to the couple by just turning up in jeans.
However, if another guy comes into the same wedding with the conventional shirt n pants, the kinda plain color shirt n simple black pants with long hairstyle like his, like a schoolboy refusing to cut his hair while he is turning 27 soon, I will think that the one not showing respect is the one in rugged shirt n pants.
Bcos at least the guy in jeans n jacket took time to dress up.
Dressing up doesnt necessary need to cost a bomb.
I, for one, have plenty of cheap clothes. I dont believe in paying $100 for a simple dress. For tank tops, I go for as cheap as $1.60 each from Manila.
Yes! And I bought several dresses, tops at a mere of $5-$10 each.
Its that cheap and I have ppl commenting how good i look in these so-called 'cheap clothings'. Btw, the dress i wore to Butter, as shown in the pics earlier on cost onli NT 100 from Taipei which is abt SGD 5 only but its a pretty dress and doesnt look like $5 onli!
But of cos, I do have mid-range clothings as well. However, one thing i truly believe in is tat a person should carry a gd wallet cos firstly, its more lasting and secondly, its the branding.
And, a woman mus definitely have a nice handbag which I also think is very important.
My friend, his mum actually asked me to help her son get a few nice shirts yet not too fanciful for him as he has jus graduated (quite sometime infact) and needs a few nice shirts to go for interviews as she has seen my different style of dressing over the years I've known her so she trust my taste.
I bought back some shirts for him, simple yet nice and stylo which she agrees is nice too but when her son saw it, he refused to wear it and plainly says its not him.
End of the day, while my friend drives me back, we concluded tat he is very smart n intelligent guy but what is the point of having high education if u dunno how to make use of it. There is really no point being dominating, expecting everyone to follow your obstinate way of thinking and not being open to changes and suggestions.
Cos, he, for one, holds a degree and had several scholarships. Best of all, he studied overseas in Oxford yet we are surprised tat despite 'drinking western water', his way of thinking remains old fashion.
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